So - the sun is shining here today - and I am trying to stay focused on the good things rather than getting more knots in my stomach about the bad! Woke up at 4am this morning with eyes like saucers. So anyway enough of that - here's what my street looks like today ....
I believe our surrogate and baby have remained in good health and out of hospital since their little pre-term labour epidode(s) 12 days ago and so I am very grateful for that!!
There has been absolutely no joy from the Visa mob and if anything - only further heart ache. They have since requested copies of my husbands 'DNA Report' (!!!) which is very ambiguous and out of the blue - as with all of their requests!! No clues given earlier (again) that this 'report' would be needed. And for reasons too lengthy to go into my husbands DNA sample was only couriered off late last week so resulting REPORTS will be days/weeks away!!! ..... breathe .....
So - instead - we have scanned and sent over every OTHER document pertaining to the DNA testing procedure that we can lay our hands on (inluding a copy of the 'Form 2 Parentage Testing Procedure' from Sonic Genetics/DNA Labs signed off by our GP and witnessed by our JP!! - for crying out loud starting to feel like criminals!!)............. breathe ...............
We have been phoning and emailling several times a day now and seriously the level of frustrating-ness and vague-ness and sheer 'head banging-ness' we are going through is a best seller in itself! ....... breathe ...........
Unfortunately the advice to go for a Tourist Visa now instead of a Medical one has come 25 days too late because we are stuck and committed to this 'process' and at the end of the day - they've got our passport in their possession. And to cancel 'this process' and get the passport home alone would add at LEAST another 5 days to the delay. Then if we (or rather - my husband - who has been left behind in Australia) starts the application process for a Tourist Visa this time - I'm sure they will deny it anyway on the grounds of 'dodginess' and suspicion etc ...... breathe ......
ANYWAY!!! Happy Days Happy Days Happy Days - Baby Good. Surrogate Good!! Sun is shining and I have my health!!!! Happy Happy Happy!!!
I am still set to fly out of Adelaide (solo) on Thursday morning (26th July) and will be landing shell-shocked, bug-eyed and more than a little bit scared - much much later that same day in New Delhi!!
A SHOUT-OUT NOW TO ALL IP's STIL IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD .... I need friends!!!!!!! xx
Good luck to those of you experiencing the birth of your gorgeous little bundles at this time and I look forward to meeting and forgeing new friendships with you soon!!
I will be the one walking around with a distress flare strapped to my backpack!!
Your positive outlook and sense of humour guarantees you'll enjoy Delhi. It's a great place and a fantastic chapter to becoming a Mum. All the best :)
ReplyDeleteEverything is going to be just fine, I know it. Well done for focusing on the positives, keep going! You are becoming a mummy and your husband is going to become a daddy. It's not an ideal route from now and will be stressful but focus all your energy on the positives as... unfortunately it sounds as though the negatives are out of your hands.
ReplyDeleteLove and hugs SR x
I know it may be hard to believe right now but this will all make for a very funny story (in a few years perhaps!!). Keep your sense of humour - you will need it in India ;)
ReplyDeleteReally hope you get some good visa news soon and I am very glad to hear that surrogate and bubs are doing well. Sending you lots of good positive vibes xx
hey chick stay strong, just think a few more days and you will be with your little one :) still keeping my fingers crossed for the visa x
ReplyDeleteNow, dont pass out through hyperventilation with all those deep breaths! You are gonna be a mummy very soon and all this visa nonsense will be a distant memory! So happy that surro and baby are doing great. Xxx
ReplyDeleteI didn't go to India for my surrogacy, but from all the blogs I have been reading it seems all of the parents bond together and help each other. I'm sure it's scary, but I know you'll have help there and you'll also just figure it out. (Figuring out ridiculously crazy situations magically comes when you become a parent.)
ReplyDeleteGood luck with everything, can't wait to see bub pics.
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We will be with you arriving 25th july so if you need us blog us fellow ip!! safe trip and hope the visa arrives !!
ReplyDeletebest wishes
lisa x
Standby fellow IP because chances are considerably high that I will be doing exactly that!! :) xx
DeleteI really feel for you, this is just ridiculous. The visa office put the message up about surrogacy late last year, you would think they would have it well sorted by now or at least understand how to communicate with people. Ack - you breathe we'll be ropeable for you !
ReplyDeleteYOU CAN DOOOOOOOO IT! :-)
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